I needed to reshape my life. I developed bad habits from 18 months of working in a environment I didn’t like, in a state I didn’t like and for bosses I didn’t respect.
My personal life started to become attuned to escaping to a nice comfortable place. I started to become more and more like an average, fat, lazy person that idolizes TV stars and craves more distractions that take them away from their own mediocre existence.
I was weak and I no longer respected myself. My view of myself is closely tied to my successes and my performance.
After moving to California with a more enjoyable job, I decided I needed to take it further. I wanted to reshape my life, change my habits, and reset my mindset into one that is constantly seeking more. I wanted to become the knowledge chasing, steel-bending, mind-altering self that I know exists in me.
Its part of my curious self; one that is constantly reflecting and searching; observing and critiquing. This is the part of myself that enables my success. It makes me feel unshakable. Unstoppable. Strong.
Around this time I discovered the site Bold & Determined. This site is run by Victor Pride and is trademarked as the Website for Winners. I don’t want to overly expose my growing man crush for Vic, but I will say that I am a big fan of his articles and ebooks. Among his quality works is the 30 Days of Discipline guide to becoming a disciplined ass-kicker.
“30 Days of Discipline is how you master your mind. Once you master your mind, everything else follows. You eliminate the bad habits that lead to laziness, sloth and gluttony and you replace those with habits that encourage success.” – Victor Pride
It’s actually a real simple book based on the daily adherence to 12 habits. As with most things, simplicity often yields the best results. Small, incremental changes that lead to big, monumental results.
“Habit and routine are the cornerstones of success. No highly successful man got to the top by mere chance and haphazard, sporadic actions- only through steady habit and daily activities do we cultivate self-mastery and achieve our goals. Forming a bad habit or routine is a matter of discipline. You’ve got to have discipline to turn a “want-to” into a daily habit. You’ve got to turn bad habits or no habits into good and productive habits. You have to become not just a new man, but also a better man. The little habits make all the difference.” – Victor Pride
The daily accumulation of the 12 daily habits will turn you into a disciplined machine. Your new habits will be your weapons against the daily grind as you look to become successful. It doesn’t matter what that end goal is, you will be better prepared to go out and get it.
I won’t divulge the 12 habits because I don’t want to expose the secrets for free (especially since they are not mine to expose). However, I will highlight the habits that made the biggest impact on my daily life. These were also the hardest ones for me to do everyday.
1. For 30 days there is no snacking.
Why was this habit hard for me? Because I was often snacking and being fat. I snacked on nuts because I argued that they were healthier than other snacks. I snacked on protein bars because I believed they would help keep me “satiated” till my next meal (which was often 10 minutes after the snack because snacking promotes eating, which makes you hungrier). Once I implemented this habit, I no longer wanted or desired snacks. I don’t even think about eating as much as I used to. I now look at people snacking and feel slightly disgusted at their obvious snacking addiction. Just look around, there are fat people snacking everywhere.
2. For 30 days you must take cold showers.
I hate the cold and despise cold showers even more. I made it a goal to take at least one cold shower a day. I have to say that the one shower I took worked as prescribed. I felt more alive. My senses were heightened. I was ready to go out and conquer the world.
3. For 30 days there is no masturbation or internet pornography allowed.
This was by far the hardest of all the habits. I’m not saying that I have a problem but it was a daily practice of mine as it is probably a daily practice of every other hot blooded, testosterone oozing, single man. I failed only once at the 13 day mark. I don’t remember the combination of variables that came together that caused me to fail but it happened. I didn’t regret that one failure and continued to press forward with all of the other habits. I did spend time after the momentary lapse of self-control to ponder the question, who do you think women find more attractive?
A) Guys who spend their time in the dark, jacking off to endless streams of porn, finishing after about an hour, taking a nap, finally making it out into the sunlight (or not) and can’t even look them in the eye.*
B) Guys who don’t spend their time playing with themselves for hours, are full of testosterone (not having spilled their precious seek twice that day), have a deeper voice, and the ability to make eye contact.*
*The two options posed come directly from book.
The answer is obvious. I didn’t fully buy into this concept at first but overtime I became more eager to talk to girls. I was more eager to interact with them and this simple little change in mindset opened up doors that I wouldn’t have otherwise been privy too. The simple act of talking to girls allowed me to further interact with more girls. Novel concept.
Additionally, I didn’t eat breakfast and paid close attention to the quality of the food that I ate. I mostly ate foods that were high in protein and fat and lots of vegetables. I still ate large lunches and dinners and just ate without being overly critical. I didn’t have to count calories or weigh my food. I just focused on good quality foods and two meals a day with no snacking. Simple and effective.
My mindset changed. My body changed. My outlook changed. All in just 30 days and with 12 simple habits.
I am so impressed with these changes that I started to dive deeper into how it happened. What I’m learning is that Willpower is a muscle that can be strengthened. Doing things everyday that you don’t like to do strengthens your resolve for other things. However, it works both ways. Doing things that make you comfortable every day will make you weak and soft.
Thus begins my journey into the concept of Character Building.
Build your character, forge discipline, and build a momentum to life that cannot be stopped.
J. R. Cambo
PS- here is a link to the book. Buy it, follow the steps, and watch a new version of yourself emerge from the dark shadows of Mediocre Alley.
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